Why Can’t We Motivate Ourselves?

We all need motivation to succeed in life. Some people say they lack motivation and that’s why they can’t lose weight, get fit, pass their exams, or give up smoking. But we all harness the power of motivation every day.

We All Have it!

Otherwise we wouldn’t get up early every morning and go to work; we wouldn’t clean our teeth every day, we wouldn’t shower regularly or wash our clothes; we wouldn’t be polite to our boss when we’re in a bad mood; we wouldn’t pay our bills on time or keep our houses tidy. Without any motivation at all we would lie in bed all day or live like tramps.

The fact is that we all use motivation all the time to function in our daily lives; it’s just the degree of motivation that can be fluid. So if we can make ourselves go to work every day or make ourselves pay our bills on time, why can’t we make ourselves stop smoking or make ourselves go to the gym every day?

Why Can’t We Motivate Ourselves?

Inner Conflict

One reason is that we often have mixed feelings about what we actually want. Perhaps you’d like to give up smoking, but all your friends smoke and you like to feel part of the group, or you’re afraid you’ll put on weight if you give up. You might want a promotion at work, but are worried that this would mean working longer hours and taking on new responsibilities that you may not measure up to.

These mixed feelings indicate a conflict within yourself which could be sabotaging your efforts.

What Do You Really Want?

One great way to conquer this problem is to decide what you really want from life. It’s only the things you feel really passionate about that will stir you to action.

Take going to the gym, for example. Write down the pros and cons of doing this every day. The pros could include feeling fit, having more energy, looking more attractive to your partner, losing weight and being more healthy. The cons could include the cost and having to be out of your home for an hour or so every evening. If the pros far outweigh the cons then you may feel more motivated to achieve your goal.

Inner conflict is usually caused because we haven’t thought clearly enough about why we want to achieve a particular goal. Don’t accept second best but realise that you can have what you want and be the person you want to be. If we feel strongly enough about wanting to achieve something in our lives and make a decision to do something about it, then the motivation usually comes. This then enables us to commit to a course of action.

You Can Have it!

So realise that it’s not motivation you lack, because if we want something badly enough then the motivation is always there. You just need to decide what you really want in life, resolve that inner conflict and then go for it!

Author: Ash Mashhadi

Ash Mashhadi is co-Founder of the Inspiration Zone. He is also co-Founder of the successful website InPlymouth.com and Partner in the highly successful web design and social media consultancy Design Inspiration. Ash is a popular and lively speaker and frequently trains and mentors owners of small and medium-sized businesses. He is often called The Inspiration Guy, and if you want to discover why, just talk to him.

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