Are you holding yourself back from your success because, deep down, you don’t feel that you deserve it? Are you pulling your punches, exactly when you should be swinging with all your might?
Many of us are guilty of this at times. Some of us get over it. Others never do; these people never realise their full potential. If I’m describing you, maybe it’s time to ask yourself why.
Because You’re Not Worth It?
Leading self-esteem coach, Kate Harris says that low self-esteem often has it’s roots in our sense of self:
“Many people suffer with low self esteem and have negative core beliefs such as ‘I’m not good enough’. These strongly held beliefs cause them to drastically overcompensate: for instance by creating excruciatingly high standards for themselves. Everything must be perfect; to avoid criticism at all costs. But even when it is, they find themselves still believing they are not good enough. Their personal internal yardstick is faulty and over demanding. It will not allow them to judge themselves successful but always finds fault. This creates a vicious circle where the negative belief is perpetuated. The more they succeed the more anxious they get, feeling a fraud and waiting to be caught out.”
Lack of belief in our self-worth can make us sabotage our own successes. Do you have a self-destructive habit that prevents you from being as effective as you’d wish? Perhaps you procrastinate at the start of a project, or dither at the end.
Do You Need Success?
In a recent post entitled “Do You Deserve or Are You Entitled to Wealth?”, Sherrie Koretke makes an interesting distinction between entitlement and deserving. She says: “Deserving is a position of power. Entitlement is a position of neediness” (hat tip to my friend and Inspiration Zone contributing author, Ryan Biddulph for signposting Sherrie’s blog post via Facebook). This raises a crucial question. Do you feel you deserve success or do you need it?
The Next Step
Next time you wonder why all your hard work isn’t producing the wealth of results you desire, ask yourself if you’ve been subconsciously limiting yourself. Before we can be truly successful and achieve our aims, we need to ensure that our mind, body and actions are moving in the same direction. Examine your motivation, your desire and your performance to discover where you really stand on this. Then, take action if you need to, and take that action as quickly as possible. Why delay when the stakes are no less than your life’s happiness; after all, can there be a more important goal?