“I get by, with a little help from my friends” wrote John Lennon. We all need the best friends we can get. Didn’t you know that already? Sure you did, and here’s why it’s essential…
1. Your Success is My Success
Focusing on helping your friends and clients to succeed achieves more than you expect. You’re not just helping them, you’re helping yourself too. Do you remember your parents telling you before you went to school that if you hang around with losers you’ll end up being one too? They were right. It may be harsh, but it’s also true. Make sure you surround yourself with winners by helping your friends to be successful. That’s the quickest way I know to surround yourself with the kind of people that will encourage and support your struggle to become successful and happy.
2. If You Believe in Me I’ll Believe in You
Loyalty is incredibly contagious. By being supportive and helpful when your friends and clients need it, you can help spread that contagion. Lead by example and pretty soon everyone will be doing it. If you’re that great friend that believed in them when they needed it, they’ll do the same for you.
3. Everyone Deserves You
You have it in you to be the best friend possible. You are the very best thing that your friends need right now. Why? Because you care. One single ounce of caring help is worth more than a tonne of good intention from strangers.
4. Being Special Is Unforgettable
In a world full of mediocrity what stands out most clearly is the truly awful and the truly great. Be that forgotten diamond in the mud, that rarest of things: a loyal and positive force in the lives of those around you. In business, this can mean being the supplier that says to her clients: “do you really need to buy this thing?” or “perhaps this would be better for you” even if it means losing the sale. I have applied this principle in my Plymouth web design business for over 17 years. Sometimes my clients don’t like it, but over 95% appreciate the honesty and I get the pleasure of knowing I’ve made the best recommendations my expertise allows. People who selflessly give the best advice to others are memorable, largely due to their scarcity. If you ever doubt the value of this, recall the quote from Charles Dickens: “A loving heart is the truest wisdom.”
5. The Honesty of Friends Is Priceless
If you really want to know whether you’ve behaved badly the only place you can a truly honest answer is from a loyal and trustworthy friend. I love this quote from George Herbert: “The best mirror is an old friend.” If you haven’t got any old friends, I suggest you start growing some new ones now, so they can mature into old ones as soon as possible. Plant some seeds today.
The Next Step
Do you really need to ask? Your next step is obvious: pick up the phone and ring a friend. See if they need any help, support or want to meet up for a coffee. Ask them what they’ve been up to, and if they only want to talk about themselves or their problems this time? Hey, that’s what friends are for.
What do you do when your friends only want to share their problems? How do you make friends? What are your top tips for being a loyal and supportive friend? Be a pal, share your advice here.